Sometimes when we interact with other people, we can feel hurt by their actions or words. This just is.
We can choose to take this personally, or look for a way to get through what is happening.
Perhaps if we try not to be so black and white when it comes to an issue? Or maybe it’s okay to get angry so long as we realise that EVERYTHING happens for a reason.
If we understand that the feelings we have, the reactions we have, are real; but, that they also can be showing us WHERE it is that we need to determine just HOW this is affecting us.
Because of what was said or done….we feel invalidated…..and we feel put down in some way.
Maybe we can walk the middle road, between – I f**king hate that person for making me feel like this….and I totally must be in the wrong, they are right and I am wrong….and we take on being a victim either way…..OR we start to understand that no-one can wound us to our core without US letting them and giving them permission to do that. We have buttons that can be pushed. Where did I get these ‘buttons’ that have this ability to totally negate all that is good and great about me?
Usually we acquire these in our childhood when we are learning to live in this world of ours and we take on board other people’s opinions of what is right and what is wrong. Parents and relatives influence us the most and friends or kids at school can ‘get’ to us as well. Once we take on a belief about ourselves, they can be hard to recognise and harder to shift. The more we DO recognise it though and act positively about it and realise that we are not totally to blame, then the easier it becomes to breathe once more…..and get on with our lives with a better outlook and a more positive view of things.
Something happened to me the other day when I felt total disappointment and ANGER at someone who I perceived had done me wrong. Once I cooled down…..I realised that what I was really after was approval and appreciation….and I KNEW this went back to my childhood when I had searched as a child for love….and hugs….and being accepted for who I was…..just as I was.
So, in future when you feel like someone has just pulled the rug out from under you; stop reacting like you did as a child….realise that you are a worthwhile human being….and wrap your arms around yourself and give yourself a big hug and say, “I count….I matter….This no longer has any relevance in my life and I am letting it go” and just see it floating away…..like a balloon in a breeze….
Remember, any inner wounding due to personal interaction will ALWAYS bring in an opportunity for healing IF we remember to take it!
Hugs all round!
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