Sometimes life is hard. We can get set on our course, and we KNOW what we have to do to achieve it. Sometimes the way is clear. Othertimes, it is not. However, if we have a belief in ourselves, and in the course we have chosen, then we forge ahead convinced that we need to do something in a particular way, or at a particular time, or with a particular someone.
Then, if something goes wrong, we may seek to blame someone else, or something else for our failure. We did everything we could….didn’t we? Or, were we so set on THAT path, done THAT way, and we knew we could do it, that we were perhaps blinded to other possibilities?
Why couldn’t we see the signs? Were we even looking for them? Why did we fail?
Perhaps, we just need to be gentler with ourselves, and say that we were wrong. We took a wrong course of action…..or were with the wrong person….or we blew it because we should’ve done it at a particular time. Please admit that you were wrong. Failure is not defeat. It just means that you tried one way….and it did not work for you….then.
Consider this….maybe by ‘failing’ we learnt something. Perhaps we learnt we could do something differently or made better choices. Maybe, through this experience, we found we started to get an overall view, which is far better than just one view…and one path only.
Failure isn’t an option. Have you heard of this?
Of course, it IS an option. It is an experience just like all our other fallible human experiences.
We are human. We DO make mistakes. We believe we can do something and then find out we can’t. But, what we DO have is our sense of fun, humour and joy! THIS is what we should be looking at, and nurturing more. Humour can change our lives, just because when we see a so called failure with a giggle or two, it immediately brings into play more perspectives, and more insights as to what we can change or do better. We find ourselves ‘released’ from the belief system we had in place, we are released from having to do something just so, and we are now seeing more possibilities and opportunities than ever before.
Admit you were wrong, and then keep moving forward.
Admit that you had beliefs that called you short. Admit that you are fallible, just like the rest of us.
We need to question more…ask more of ourselves than assuming we have one belief about something. Expand your mind. Question and ask WHY!
When you do this, you will notice that more probabilities DO exist after all! Unquestioned belief systems just serve to keep us locked up….inside ourselves, and that’s no fun!
So, next time something occurs that knocks you for a loop, something that you believed would go well; know that when it didn’t, it’s not a reflection of you as a person, or a reflection of your choices. IT JUST IS…
Better to be ‘wrong’ than live with or work with a belief that gives you grief…over and over. Changing a ‘bad’ situation for a ‘good’ one isn’t easy and besides, WHO said that we are in a bad situation or a good one? Only the politicians and the media, and the voices in our heads. Are they the voices of reason or of your Mother or Father…? They sensationalise almost everything and we buy into it as well.
So, instead let’s remain in a state of constant awe, in love with the moment, bewildered and astonished by the grandeur of the unknown. Let’s be free. Better be a slave to a higher purpose and TRY, than just stay stuck in shock and woe. So, be free to be wrong and love all your mistakes, errors and failures…..give them a hug, for they show you an expanded future that just may bring you joy!
Use what’s left of 2015 to build, light up, and consciously create today what will be that which you step into next year and beyond.
I wish you well,
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